And we don’t value what is just handed to us nearly as much.

Think about it: If he was some guy who was obsessed with trying to please you constantly in every way, you would think he was a pushover.

It just means that we were having fun, we were tipsy, we took a chance, and we scored. Understand that he DOES want to keep sleeping with you because it’s in HIS self-interest.

And understand that everything he does next is designed to keep you INTERESTED in him without allowing you to fall in LOVE with him.

I take my job as your personal trainer for love very seriously.

I try to honor and respect every woman who reads my emails and offer advice that is honest but not too brutal.

• Another text a few days later to say he’s thinking of you, but he’s been busy. Hell, he’s not even talking about dinner and a movie! He hasn’t done anything after sleeping with you that indicates that he’s serious about you. And at the end of the day, I know it is me to blame.

• A text a week later at 9pm to ask what you’re doing right now. He’s mostly keeping in touch with texts and hoping that you coast on your attraction to him without ever second guessing his lack of effort. So, reward this kind man for trying to protect your feelings by… “It’s been fun knowing you, Dan, but I’m looking for a boyfriend, not a sexting buddy.

Listen, we’re just as shocked as you are when you sleep with us on a second date.

But, as you know, this doesn’t mean we want a relationship with you. Pay attention to how he handles himself in the next 24-48 hours. Understand that he DOESN’T want you to fall in love with him.

It's up to you to make your love immortal and win your lady love with honest feelings and lovely words.