My daughter started seeing a guy (her first boyfriend) when she was 17 against our wishes.

Let her know that while you disapprove of the guy, you are her mother and will always be there for her. No giving her a car (there are a lot of people who get to and from college without them), no paying the insurance (you won’t need to since you’ll have the vehicle), no giving her money when she’s short on rent, no paying the cell phone bill and so on.

It’s time for you to lay down some ground rules that include how you will be treated because the current conditions are unacceptable.

My daughter is a good girl; she works and goes to college but lets him brainwash her into hating her dad and me.

She has changed her cell number and refuses to talk to or even look at us.

And they will not get better if you are nicer to her or give her more stuff, in fact, just the opposite. And don’t forget to follow the conversation on Facebook and Twitter.

If your daughter wants to act like an adult, then she does it 24 and 7, not just when it’s convenient. More from GEM: Ask Rene: My Friend Double-Crossed Me; What Should I Do? Ask Rene: What Do I Do About My Daughter And Her Deadbeat Boyfriend?

If I did, I’d be able to put my kids through college and then some, I kid you not.

But all the stories are a little bit different and each one involves someone’s kid.

I’m a big believer in learning from all of our experiences.

You telling your daughter this is a bad guy is not going to be nearly as eye-opening as when she comes to that conclusion herself.

When we took her car, her boyfriend got mad and tried to press charges on me for “harassing” my daughter when I was only calling her on the phone to make sure she was okay.