I found out he had three children and an ‘ex’ wife who he never told me about for the entire year we were seeing each other.When you realize that you were with a relationship with someone who lied to you in such a big way, you question everything.” 2.“I guess an obvious red flag should've been getting with him three months after he separated from his wife of five years and was forced to move back in with his parents.

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When he was with her, he kept hinting at us dating one day, and saying how much he liked me.

When he was actually single and that was a real possibility now, he ghosted very quickly.” 7. He usually just caved in and agreed with whatever my complaints were, but never took real steps to change.

I’m sure he had plenty of grievances in the relationship, but he was too much of a coward to bring them up or ever challenge me. It was easier for him to sneak around than try to make this relationship actually mean something, or, you know, break up.” 8.

“I wish I’d known about gaslighting before it happened to me!

"I was dating this guy in college, and one of the biggest red flags was how often he would jokingly make fun of my personal taste in style.

He laughed at and called my favorite pair of jeans ‘MC Hammer pants’ when I wore them and hated dark red lipstick on me because it made me look ‘scary.’ I changed up a lot of what I wore or how I did my makeup around him just so I wouldn't have to hear little comments.

I think I wore dark red lipstick for a week straight once we broke it off.” 3.

“Every time I asked him if he would meet my parents, he would deflect it and talk about something else or his busy schedule.

He gave me the silent treatment for a whole day because I got a ride home from my male co-worker.