Keep friendship after dating
Some don’t care about witnessing ex’s displays of affection with their new snugglebunny and for others, it’s pure unadulterated nightmare fuel.
This goes both ways, by the way; just because you’re totally fine with knowing everything (and everyone) your ex gets up to doesn’t mean that they’re going to feel the same way about you.
Your relationship has just ended and that deserves to be observed.
While breaking up certainly doesn’t mean your relationship was a failure, you are facing an ending and those tend to be sad.
Trying to force a friendship too early means you’re going to fall right back into old patterns with your ex and that spells trouble.
Most of the time, when you’ve broken up, it’s for a very good reason.
Staying around one another – even when you both swear that you’re over it – almost always means that all you’re doing is prolonging the breaking-up portion of your relationship, which is an excellent way to ensure that you be friends afterwards.
You need to have time apart, without being in contact with each other, in order to move into this new phase of your life.
It takes time to relearn how to be on your own again, and the longer you were with them, the longer it’s going to take. Plus, getting over your ex helps avoid the annoying “reconnecting because you want to bang, not be friends” two-step.
You need to discover who you are now and how you’ve changed and grown. You need to let that pain out so you can let it go and it’s going to be almost impossible to do this while they’re still so present in your life. Lock down your social media and phone so that you’re not tempted to pick at those scabs. One of the most difficult parts of building and maintaining a friendship after you’ve broken up is adjusting to the difference in intimacy.
How do you navigate the complicated waters of a post-break-up friendship? Yes, there are people who say that they were able to slip straight into a friendship after they broke up without missing a beat.
There are also people who win the Mega-Millions lottery with a single ticket.
When you’re in a committed relationship together, it’s natural to have a greater expectation of involvement in your partner’s life.