It’s true that being overly available can seem desperate or unattractive, but the last thing you want to do is play dating games.If you’re suffering from no-life syndrome, step back and ask yourself why you aren’t having fun on your own. Play the sport you like or pursue one of your interests. Insecure people push for serious relationships for the security it brings, and people can sense that.

If you emotionally vomit on someone and spill your whole life story during the first three dates, where’s the fun in that?

It’s like telling someone what’s in the present they’re about to unwrap. Focus on having fun, enjoy the mystery, and going from casual to serious will happen naturally.

If it’s “to get to know someone”, you’ll probably seem interview-ish. People like being around fun, low-pressure people with no expectations.

The best way to look at a date is a chance to have fun. As things progress, that’s when you get to know each other.

The final milestone is when you know it’s official – whether you say it’s a serious relationship or not.

Unscheduled Time Together When you start hanging out together without making plans in advance, you know things are getting serious.

Likewise, if she’s got some clothes or 8,412 bottles of hair product in your shower, you’re in.

The Big One: Your First Fight If you have a fight and you don’t break up, you’re basically saying this is something worth working on.

Sure, acting unavailable might work at the casual dating stage, but what happens after that? Learn an instrument, a language, or take dancing lessons. 2) Set Boundaries Why would someone commit to you if they’re getting everything they want without the commitment?